Q: I’ve got a question about wedding protocol and since you’ve written a book on weddings, I thought you may have the answer. My friend and I were talking about her upcoming wedding and were discussing which side her dad will stand on as they are coming down the aisle. Personally I’ve always thought it was silly to have the father of the bride stand to the bride’s right because he has to awkwardly step backwards in a small aisle and practically steps on the brides dress while making his way to his seat on the other side of the bride, yet that’s what everyone does. I also remember watching a reality show about New York wedding planners and one of the wedding planners urged brides to make sure their fathers were on their left. However, I recently heard a story that the father stands to the right because in Medieval Times the father may have had to access his sword and its just become tradition. Can you please separate fact from fiction and let us know the proper placement for the father of the bride?
A: Hey! I’m not expert on the etiquette but I think the traditional approach (father on the right) makes sense. When the groom approaches, the father can greet him and shake his hand (his right hand is free since the daughter is to his left), then can join the groom’s and bride’s hands and step behind and to his seat. It can be awkward if he has to step over a train, but it’s worth it since symbolically the groom is taking the father’s place. Hope this helps!